Saturday, 8 August 2015

Appointment Made

Well. It's finally that time. We've taken a nice long break from acknowledging our infertility. Gave another stab at trying naturally with realistic expectations, and now we're back to pursuing treatment.

We are new to New York City, so I definitely wanted to do a bit of research. I think I found the place: Sher Fertility. Specifically I'm excited to work with Dr. Tortoriello. He seems to get fantastic reviews and I love that you work with one doctor here in the states (or at least at this clinic). In Canada we got passed around from doctor to doctor, so there felt like no consistency in our treatment, and constant miscommunication over how to treat our case. Blegh. Anyways. Very hopeful this might be our happy ending. At least its a fresh beginning, and we're excited about that much!

Our consultation appointment is scheduled for mid October. Funny when I called that we could have gotten in next week with this one doc, but for him the earliest was October. I feel like that was quite telling. Worth the wait? Let's hope!

Feeling ready to embark on this journey again took a lot of time. We definitely hoped we wouldn't have to, in fact, I was somewhat in denial that we would. I kept saying, "I just have a feeling I won't need IVF anymore!" This was after huge changes in my diet, and thus overall health. Truth be told, my health is improved and I feel fantastic, but looks like this will just be extra helpful for our round of IVF, just not enough on its own to warrant a pregnancy.

I haven't really told anyone we're starting up again... I guess if they read this they will! The funny thing about infertility and sharing your story is that people are involved at the start and trying to support you, but over time, without really knowing how, they eventually go back to their own lives. They probably aren't even sure how to bring it up again. I don't blame them or judge them for this. I mean, I also think a lot of people just think we're doing so great that we're not worried about it, or are happy childless. And we are, but being happy and finding other things in our lives that are fulfilling could never replace the desire to have a child and a family. We have never for one day given up on that dream, and never for one day truly stopped trying in our minds and our hearts. So here we go again! Wish us luck!


  1. Hi There! Glad to hear you made some changes in your diet and lifestyle! What have you changed? I removed alcohol and caffeine from my diet but always looking for other ideas...

  2. Hi Cindy! Thanks for stopping by! Sorry it took me a bit to respond. I've been out of town on a work trip.

    I mostly changed my diet to fit in with my allergies so eliminated wheat, dairy, eggs and some various other random foods that my system didn't agree with such as certain fruits (kiwi/banana).

    I also try my best to eat as organic and healthy as I can, while avoiding unnecessary sugars. I too have removed alcohol completely, although I can't say I've completely sworn off caffeine. I have a ritual of a green tea latte in the morning, which is high in antioxidants but still gives me a bit of a boost. A gal's gotta have her tea! :) haha

    If you have any other tips to share, please do! :)

  3. How did you realize you had allergies to those foods? Ha my tips are limited. We have been checked out head to toe and the docs can't find a single thing wrong with us. We have been trying for over a year and just completed our first round of IUI with no success. I just want to pull my hair out over this! Its all encompassing...all I think about.

    I try and work out at least 3 days a week, hang out with my husband and friends whenever I get a chance and make sure I get some snuggles in with my pug, Pickles, everyday. Maybe my diet is the next thing that has to change...I am at a loss.

  4. I got blood allergy testing done. A lot of people don't believe in it, but honestly, and the ones that popped up that I tested thereafter were completely on the money.

    I can relate with wanting to pull your hair out. Being "unexplained" for me is the most frustrating of all. Not having a reason to pinpoint and try and overcome, but rather just being like, "not sure, dunno, keep trying!?" annoying!

    I'm sorry you're feeling so lost. Sometimes trying to 'fix' ourselves isn't the answer I guess. I've tried everything, and no success and it just makes me more frustrated. I'm getting to the point of doing things that feel right for me, not for my fertility. If I don't feel compelled to do it for myself mainly, then its not worth doing.

    Big hugs and best wishes to you!